I have come to realise I’m a jealous person. For all my positivity I have a burning to desire to have more, do more, see more, experience more.
Very often this drives me. I want to do everything. My life is filled with … life. I am often likely to burn out because of this. I like to think I’m good at self regulating, until a plate smashes to the floor. Today I found myself jealous. And not of a trip to Mexico, or a theatre ticket I can’t afford. But something small. Herein lies an uncharacteristic rant.
I can’t take a nap if I have a headache. In fact I can’t have a headache at all. It’s rare for me to be sick.
I can’t be sick.
5 years of living with someone who is more sick than me has given me a lack of perspective when it comes to illness. Or maybe I’ve just been lucky. But I do wonder what would happen if I was ill.
I can’t be late.
Ok, I am late. All the time. But it’s hard. Getting ready for school in the morning is what most parents have nightmares about. I’m irritable before the day even starts. Those last 20 minutes where all that needs to happen is shoes to be put on flies by in some warped montage of homework gripes, a letter I haven’t responded to, a book unread… and I don’t have anyone to help me. Every time I need to leave the house I imagine everyone having just what they need at the right time.
I can’t lie in. Even if I have the chance, on one of those days where the girls are sleeping over, I wake up at 6:30, eyes wide and waiting for the next event. This is related to…
I can’t relax.
I can’t prioritise.
I have days where I think I can’t do life (and not in an I’m-going-to-kill-myself way) But I carry on regardless. I plough through my unending list of tasks. Willing the end of the day to come around, only so I can wonder about the list of things I haven’t done.
But this is what drives me. This is what keeps me going. Should I change? Do I need to re-evaluate? Do I need to go to a meditation class? Learn to slow down my life? Probably. The thought fills me with dread. I simply don’t have time.
I can’t stop.
On Friday I stopped. I stared at a painting in a quiet room. My favourite space in the world. I look at the painting and realise I am drawn to the activity within the stillness. I can see the strokes of the brush. I can feel the artist moving across the room, looking, adding, looking again, waiting for the point where the painting is finished and it’s ready to be seen.
I am painting. A rich canvass that is layered with texture and colour.
I can’t finish the painting.
It’s not ready.